Becoming a new mom means running the risk of losing yourself in the raising of your new child. You will be especially prone to this if you are a stay at home mom. It’s now widely considered to be an essential part of motherhood to place some priority on establishing a support network. The problem is that this is not as obviously easy to achieve as we would like. However, without a good network around you, you become much more likely to limit your own potential, and you may even increase negative emotions as you feel increasingly isolated. Avoid this risk by creating a network for yourself. With the right people around you, raising a child doesn’t have to be a lonely experience.
Start with friends
Obviously, everyone needs friends. The problem for new moms is that your friend circle is very likely to include those without children. While this is no bad thing, if they don’t have the experience then they may fail to understand your needs. Ideally, you want to meet new moms who are in the same stages as you are (or just in front of you). That way, their advice is based on the newest of experiences, and will be very valuable. There are some obvious places to meet new moms, so get out there, try the following ideas, meet new moms and add them to your support network!
While it may seem like the de facto solution to all of your problems, the internet will always have its benefits. One of those benefits is the ability to find like-minded people. Social media and popular websites are renowned for providing information and support no matter your interests, and parenthood is no different. Look at sites like Reddit, where there are a number of subreddit parenthood communities like r/beyondthebump and r/parenting. Covering everything from pregnancy to schooling, Reddit is a great way to establish a support network that includes the full range of multicultural experiences and advice.
If Reddit is too anonymous for you, then there are online communities like Bubbahood, which not only acts as a network, but also comes with other benefits such as the best products to buy straight from the site, and even free samples too. The good thing about online networks is that even the shyest of new parents are able to contribute at a level they feel comfortable with.
Your local spaces
Getting outside with your baby is always a good idea. It’s good for your baby and it’s good for you too. We all know that our local communities are rife with potential candidates for your support network, but knowing the best places to find the right people can get confusing quickly. The trick is not to overthink it. Head to your local park! Parks are very popular with children, which means that there will often be plenty of other moms there, and chances are that they need support too. It can be a challenge to our self-confidence to strike up conversations with strangers in a public place, but remember that everyone there is partaking in the same activity, and that commonality means that you already have an established connection.
Talk to your Doctor
If you feel that you’re limited in your options, talk to your Doctor! They will have plenty of information regarding local mom groups, and will be happy to provide you with the details you need to join in with these groups. Your Doctor should be able to provide you with a wealth of information regarding how and where to meet other new parents, although it’s also worth checking at the hospital where you gave birth as well. Where else are you going to find a ready supply of new moms? Many hospitals provide meeting groups for moms that have just given birth, and it can be extremely useful to have a network of moms around you who have given birth at the same time as you, and are facing similar challenges. From breastfeeding classes to orientation groups for new parents, chatting with your doctor and your hospital are great ways of finding new solutions to the problem of feeling alone while parenting.
The most important thing to remember as a new mom is that you are not alone. It can be very easy to fall into negativity when you spend too much time with just you and your baby, so take the time to work on your network, and you and your child will be able to grow and learn together.