5 Ways to Stop Yelling at Your Children

We all knows as parents who have children that they can drive you crazy sometimes, making it feel like they are always misbehaving. It’s easy when you lose your cool to become frustrated and resort to yelling. Instead of losing your cool and bursting into anger at your child can seem impossible, but it’s not.

Check out these 5 ways you can stay calm when your child is driving you crazy and still be able to make your point across when they are misbehaving.


Take a step back from the situation. Inhale. Exhale. Breathe. Try to calm yourself.

You might have told your child to do something, such as picking up their toys, but you come back just a couple minutes later and the toys are still all over the floor. You might feel your blood boiling and on the edge of losing it. That’s when you need to turn around, take a deep breath and calm yourself down.

Collect yourself for just a moment and get your emotions into check. If you are feeling worked up and don’t take a moment to calm yourself down, you are likely going to find yourself yelling at your child. Just take a step back and think about what you are going to say to your child. Remain calm when you do so.

Address Their Behavior

When we teach our children new things, such as reading or riding a bike, we usually do it in a positive manner. However, when it comes to behavior we often resort to using punishment as a tool to discipline.

If your child hits another child during a play day at the park, it’s easy to react to yelling and telling them not to do that. Instead of yelling try to focus on addressing their performance and taking the time to teach your child why hitting is wrong. During this time, you need to be patient when teaching your child something is wrong and why it is. Your child might likely repeat their behavior again.

Teach Your Child to Explain Their Feelings

Before lashing out at your child, try to figure out what is causing their misbehavior. Sometimes toddlers just have not yet found another way to displaying their feelings and end up misbehaving. As parents we need to teach our children how to express their feelings without validating their behavior.

Set Rules and Follow Through with Them

Not carrying out what you say you are going to can result in your child testing you. You then might end up feeling frustrated and yelling at them. it’s easy to avoid by having clear rules and state the consequences. If your child doesn’t follow the rules, then make sure you follow through with what the punishment will be for their misbehavior.

Put Yourself in Their Shoes

When someone yells at you, you are likely to feel hurt by their action. Your child feels the same way when you yell at them too. Yelling at our children can tear them down and this is when we risk damaging their confidence and sense of self-worth. As parents, we don’t want to make our children feel shame or embarrassment. Teach them what is acceptable and what is not with a calm manner instead of yelling.

We are not all perfect, so sometimes we will have our moments and slip up and yell. It’s okay if you do that as long as we might it right. When you slip up it’s important to talk to your child after you have calmed down and explain to them that you didn’t mean to raise your voice and get mad. Explain to your child that when they don’t listen it makes you frustrated. Ask them then to do better by listening and that you will also do better by not yelling at them.

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