Did I Do Good? Am I Good Enough?

good-enough-300x298Did I Do Good? Am I Good Enough?
I passed my son Caleb in the school hallway after I had a parent-teacher conference.  Knowing why I went in he immediately asked, “Did I do good?”  His eyes screamed, “Am I good enough?”

He looked at me, his parent, for worth.

I felt it in my inner-momma-spirit that this was one of those moments that counted and how I responded mattered.

Our words have power.

I hugged him tight,  “I’m so proud of you! You’re great! I love you so much!”

He smiled and went off to class.

There’s a time to talk about strengths and weaknesses but the school hallway was not the time.

Rewind two hours earlier when Cal’s mom stepped on Lucy (my scale once named Lucifer) and asked herself the same exact questions, “Did I do good? Am I good enough?”

I’m back to food journaling and have lost some weight. But this morning, I gained some back and the problem with these questions was not the questions, it was the source. I asked myself when I really needed to ask my Parent, God, for my worth.

I said, “Loser. You’ll never loose this weight.  Why’d you eat so late last night?”

God said, “I’m so proud of you! You’re great! I love you so much!”

I’m insanely sensitive to giving my kids performance-based-approval and love because that’s how I’ve been loved and often love myself.  That’s how the world loves but not how God loves.

Today, I feel insanely sensitive to encourage you to not let a boss, teacher, scale, bank statement, or any other number or person out weigh what God thinks of you.

I’ll tell ya why.

I don’t think the scale is the enemy. My response to the scale is often the enemy. Just as my words matter, so do my thoughts.  And if my words and thoughts don’t align to what God says and thinks then I start drawing worth from the wrong place.

Some days are easier than others.  Some days I step on the scale and take it as just a number and other days, like today, I’m fragile and am susceptible to empower one little number to tell me if I’m good or bad.

Friends, my scale doesn’t get to tell me if I’m good or bad, God does. God says good. Phew. What a relief.

I don’t know what your “scale” is today…maybe it’s a work performance review or balancing your checkbook.  Please don’t let one number outweigh what you’re parent, God says, “I’m so proud of you! You’re great! I love you so much!”

Ok? OK.

If you’re with me, leave a comment below with two letters…OK!



Steph Fink is an inspirational speaker, writer and blogger with a passion to encourage women with practical principles for purposeful and powerful lives. Steph blogs at encouragedinheart.org and gives daily encouragement on her Encouraged in Heart Facebook Page. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Encouraged-in-Heart-Stephanie-Fink/109784452427205

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