Do this, do that, you need to, don’t do that, and what are you doing can often be the only words we as moms feel we say all day to our children. Often leaving us feeling as though we spend our day ordering them around rather then encouraging them. Do you ever feel this way?
We place focus on what needs to get done or how we want them to behave rather then who they are. I wonder what would happen if we placed focus on using encouraging words when barking those orders at our children if it would inspire them to do more, behave better, and maybe even use their manners on a regular basis.
Positive Parenting .com says that “True encouragement focuses on the deed, not the doer. It motivates a child from the inside to demonstrate similar positive behavior in the future, and to value things like hard work, improvement, teamwork and perseverance.”
Encouraging words can be as simple as using one of theses 27 encouraging phrases we found over on the Positive Parenting website:
Thank you for your help!
You should be proud of yourself!
Look at your improvement!
That “A” reflects a lot of hard work!
You worked really hard to get this room clean!
Thanks for helping set the table, that made a big difference.
I noticed you were really patient with your little brother.
What do you think about it?
You seem to really enjoy science.
Your hard work paid off!
That’s a tough one, but you’ll figure it out.
Look how far you’ve come!
I trust your judgment.
The time you’re putting into your homework is really paying off.
I love being with you.
You really put a smile on her face with your kind words!
That’s coming along nicely!
You really worked it out!
That’s a very good observation.
Thank you for your cooperation.
I see a very thorough job!
That’s what we call perseverance!
I can tell you really care.
You make it look easy!
You’ve really got the hang of it!
I can tell you spent a lot of time thinking this through.
I really feel like a team when we work like this!
MOM Challenge: This week let’s all be challenged to stop before we bark another order at our children and try using one of the above 27 Encouraging Phrases and see the positive changes in our children begin to take place.
What encouraging phrases do you use?