First Things First

BySteph Fink
A three hour daily commute.  Need I say much more?  My husband’s three hour daily commutewas wearing him out.  At thetime, our boys were one and four years old.  As a stay at home mother, I was wearing out too.  My husband felt like an absenteefather.  
Out of the blue, my husbandreceived a phone call from a corporate recruiter.  After several interviews, he was offered a job in San Diego,California.  After we prayed manyprayers we decided to accept the off. While we were sad to leave our families and life on the east coast, thethree hour commute just wasn’t cutting it; we wanted more family time.  So we put our home on the market and preparedto say goodbye to Virginia.  Withinthat same month, we had a buyer for our home.  Things were working out…or at least that’s what wethought.  
Two weeks before our move toCalifornia, we received a phone call that the buyer had backed out of thecontract.  My husband’s headdropped like a wilted flower.  Igrabbed my best friend’s hands and looked at him square in the face and said,”Babe, don’t look down, look up – God’s doing something. I don’t know whatit is, but I trust Him. Trust Him babe.”  
We kept our house on the marketand after an unsuccessful house-hunting trip to California, we decided to putour household goods in storage and live in temporary housing until we found ournew home.
We felt confident God wanted usto keep family time a top priority but weren’t sure why God allowed certaindoors to open and quickly closed others.
Three days before our first car was to be shippedwest, my husband received an offer that he couldn’t refuse.  No, the Godfather didn’t call him buthis current boss did and counter-offered with a closer work location and matchedthe other salary offer too.  
But seek first his kingdom andhis righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew6:33 (New International Version)
Our top reason to move acrosscountry was to protect our family time. But God in His awesome love gave my husband a two hour less commute andmore money too. 
But that’s not where the storyends.
The following month my father hadopen-heart surgery.  We knew if wemoved to California I’d not be able to be there with my dad.  My heart was very heavy about it.  Whilemy father is important to me, my top priorities are God, my husband and youngchildren.
Since we remained in Virginia,I was able to travel to New Jersey to be there with my father in both thepre-op and post-op rooms on the day of his surgery.  The day after, I went back home to Virginia.  When my father was ready to go home, mythen baby and preschooler went back up with me and helped care for my widowedfather for the following three weeks.  
I would never had been able tocare for my father and help him transition back home if we were living inCalifornia.  
God never ceases to amazeme!  
God’s signature was all overthis non-relocation.  God blessedus and reminded us to keep our priorities in the proper order, which startedwith seeking God first.  
How do you manage your familypriorities?  

Steph’swriting has appeared in Proverbs 31 Ministry, P31 Woman magazine.  Inher free time she can be found encouraging numerous MOPS group in thenorthern Virginia area on the “Colorful Art of Friendship – AllowingGod to Paint the Masterpieces” and MOPS leaders on “Being a BrightLight”.

Steph can be found blogging at or on Facebook at Stephanie Fink or on her Facebook page Encouraged in Heart – Stephanie Fink.  She loves big hair, big cups of coffee and big bear hugs.

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