I never have bad days anymore. It sounds like a dream, or me just saying something crazy, but it is true. I don’t have bad days anymore.
I do have bad moments, of course. There are days when I’m with my children that they decide one time they are going to misbehave more than they normally do. Or the time we are all stir crazy from being stuck inside with back-to-back days of being sick with colds and my kids decided it was okay to get into the cleaning supplies when I stepped away for just a minute.
Yes, those were some bad moments, but they were not enough to make my day bad.
There are a lot of little things in our lives that can quickly add up make our days turn sour. Some days feel like it is happening more than ever. Our perspective can quickly change that day from feeling happy to ready to burst out loud with frustration. There have been days where I felt overwhelmed with anger when everything felt like it was going wrong. Sometimes I would take it out on my own children and other days I would find some other way to take my anger out on someone else I loved and cared for.
That’s when I learned I needed to step back and to choose to either have a bad day or a day moment because I started hurting those around me.
It’s not easy to not have a bad day, but I hope some of these strategies I’ve picked up on will help you.
Take a step back and breathe
It sounds more simple than it really is, especially when you are in the moment of feeling boiled up with emotions. I have learned to always catch myself and take a deep breath when I am having a bad moment. Sometimes I step away and give myself a few moments alone to gather my emotions and thoughts. I even count to 10 sometimes and that can be enough.
Just take a moment and breathe.
Let your bad moments go
There have been times where I have my bad mom moments and I lose my temper. We can all relate to this as moms or just being human. Sometimes I react by yelling or in a way that I don’t want to at all.
Just don’t dwell on your bad moments or it will turn into a bad day. Instead, acknowledge that you had a bad moment, apologize to those you might have yelled at our reacted in a negative way to.
Then let it go.
Find your community
I would not have survived some of my bad days or bad moments without a strong group of friends and family supporting me. I have always found calling someone when a bad moment hits can change my day completely and me feeling way better after talking it out. Make sure you find yourself a community and get the support you need.
Overall, turning my bad days into bad moments hasn’t been easy for me. It takes time to turn those days into only moments, but I keep working at it and eventually found myself being able to focus on the better moments and having good days. I remember to laugh and think about something positive that made me happy. Sometimes I write it down in a journal about a memory of the day, a Bible verse I find inspiration from or a quote. You can easily do it too, just keep working at it!