Becoming a parent no longer involves just taking care of yourself and your spouse. You have children that need to be fed, bathed, clothed, snuggled, and loved. There are many moments for you to record, such as the first steps and crawls. Words to teach your little one and scrapes to kiss. There are also stories to read and bedtime routines to follow.
The list is endless; however, it’s all another more reason you shouldn’t have to go through motherhood alone.
Friendship is important to all women, especially once you become a mother. You need friends you can talk to and count on. Friends that will tell you when you are going the wrong direction or need some advice ASAP!
It can be tough to find friends who are moms and connect with and understand who you are, especially when there is less time and energy to devote to friends with raising a family. However, when looking for your own mom tribe, there are a couple of things you need to remember.
Embrace the differences of each other
Each of your friends will have a different approach to life. This can help you grow not only in your friendship, but also who you are as a person. Everyone within your group who is different cane bring something valuable to the group.
Stay in touch
You don’t always have to stay in touch by meeting in person. The schedules can be hectic in order to see your friend within a minutes notice. It’s a good idea to plan ahead when you ant to see each other. Plan to see each other once a week or once a month with a fun get-together at home or out to eat. If someone falls through, which happens sometimes, don’t make it a big deal.
In between your times not able to meet up, keep in touch other ways. Social media is a great way to keep connected. You can also send each other an email or give one another a call. Try a group text message with your mom tribe!
Support each other
Understand the importance of one another by not imposing your opinion on each other. Simply because you do something does not mean everyone else needs to do it. Embrace those moments where your friends might you need there for emotional support rather than giving advice. Be there for your mom friends when you need that extra encouragement at work or to get through the day of just being a mother.
Never say a bad thing
In your group make it a rule to never talk about another person in a bad way. Even if you disagree with your mom friend you need to respect her enough to not turn it into gossip.
If you find yourself in a mom group that judges you, it’s not really your mom tribe for you.
Know that you are more than a mom
When you become a mom you might only see yourself as that. Sometimes it might be hard to move past anything besides your kids within your mom tribe. However, having an understanding that you are all still growing as individuals. Your personal growth does not stop because you have children—you’re there together to keep growing as individuals.